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Some time back, a friend asked me “you have mentored a number of manager-level people in your home domain of software, but are you up to mentoring college kids?”. When posed like that, how can I not take it up?! So, let me try, I told my friend who also pointed me to a digital mentoring platform – I promptly signed up as a mentor for two students pursuing engineering degrees.  My mentoring journey with them has been an interesting and refreshing experience with many “mindful shifting of gears” on my part. Let me elaborate.   

Before that, let me share some information on using a digital mentoring platform – a first for me. Here is a list of things that I really liked about the platform:  

  • The platform is really simple to use for mentors and mentees. It provides the framework for the entire mentoring program. The mentoring plan is already there, developed based on typical needs of college students
  • The platform is populated with very engaging content with e-learning modules such as “Mastering job interviews”, “Vision for life”, “Value of Values”, “Managing Emotions” and so on complete with videos, quizzes and exercises
  • Mentees decide their mentors; the platform enables the match-making using mentee parameters like background, available time slots, preferred language, gender etc.
  • A program coordinator is available for support and assistance with issues

The platform is excellent but that gets you just to the first gear. I needed several subsequent gear shifts on an ongoing basis to adjust to the new context. Here are a few examples:

  • Compared to mentoring managers in a corporate setting, the landscape is quite different, more about “life skills” than about improving performance
  • The initial connect takes relatively longer. At the start, mentees are not quite sure of what to expect. I think initially my mentees thought of me as one of their college faculty while my own wish was to be treated more like a guide and friend. The extra time up front to sync up is essential for picking up speed and moving to higher gears
  • While there is a well-defined overall program plan, adaptations are needed more often. For example, in the module on developing a vision, I found my mentees related a lot more to the immediate 6-12 months ahead rather than a distant life vision. In such cases, we mutually agreed on what to focus on and how much time to devote   
  • The program prescribes a mentoring cadence to be maintained. My mentees and I (yes, mentor also!) need to complete self-study of target modules offline prior to discussing them in weekly zoom sessions. However, mentees have other higher priority demands on their time – academics, college events and such. But I usually got advance notice and able to plan – going slower at times and picking up speed later (not so easy with my manager mentees where many times work-related interruptions would come out of the blue)  
  • I found that as my mentees got the hang of the program (and myself!), they asked for more; advice on target employers, further studies, family constraints etc. This was, of course, to mentor’s delight – a sign of the relationship enhancing and more opportunities for value addition. Those were indeed the top gear moments!

Of course, sometimes just shifting gears is not enough; one has to get out of the car and look under the hood. For example, after a promising start, a mentee seemed to lose interest. He fell behind in his mentee exercises, missed zoom sessions and generally went quiet. It was not easy for me to figure out what was happening with him. Unlike in the corporate setting, there was no mentee’s manager I could reach out to. So, I tried one-on-one conversations; getting another mentee to reach out; seeking advice from the program coordinator etc. Things are improving – but still work in progress

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To conclude, here are a few tips for mentors venturing out in a significantly new context:

  • Treat your mentee-connect as an all-important aspect of every session, not just in the initial stages; get to know the mentee holistically – college life, family, friends, sports, movies, music etc.; likewise, get the mentee to know you equally well
  • Keep detailed notes on mentoring sessions and areas to pursue in following sessions
  • Prepare well prior to every mentee session: a rough mental map, review of your notes etc. 
  • Listen carefully and make the mentee aware that you have been listening; it significantly reinforces the connect
  • Be sensitive to mentee moods – cut short sessions when the mentee seems distracted

While I knew up front that I had to adapt significantly, I realized the analogy of conscious gear shifts in mentoring was very useful for me. However, they were not as challenging as when I first learnt to drive a car with stick shift. Back then, I wished I had three legs! Overall, I found the experience very interesting and fulfilling.

As always, look forward to hearing your views and “gear shifting” experiences.